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The Sign Of Confusion

Confused? Be.

How scared we are of confusion, to even admit to being confused. And how much shaming we endure when we do. Let’s face the cloud with eyes open and examine what it means to be confused.

Sometimes people hide behind “I’m confused” as a way to avoid the responsibility of thinking. But if you’re reading my writing, you probably enjoy thinking. Even complex ideas like emotions and morality. Thinking is not a chore, not a burden, not a monster. It’s adventure.
So what does it mean for a person like you or I to say “I’m confused.”? It means feeling unable to process thoughts in the straight line they generally follow. Something is blocking the steady stream, the usual order that we know life to go. Something is slowing us down. Something is obscuring our view. Something is pulling us in a different direction. Maybe it’s another stream of thoughts. Maybe it’s a person. Or maybe it’s that feeling that something doesn’t add up, doesn’t fit. Something is not okay.

The world shames us for confusion, possibly because it means it means decisions and actions will be paused. And this is inconvenient and scary. That’s probably why the statement is often met with a ‘Buck up and do it’ attitude. But if you are able to separate the shaming and pressure that comes from outside, you might find that confusion is actually a great alarm sign telling you to stop and consider. Honour that feeling. It might keep you from falling into a trap.

You’re confused. Not gullible.

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THE SIGN OF CONFUSION Confused? Be. How scared we are of confusion, to even admit to being confused. And how much shaming we endure when we do. Let’s face the cloud with eyes open and examine what it means to be confused. Sometimes people hide behind “I’m confused” as a way to avoid the responsibility of thinking. But if you’re reading my writing, you probably enjoy thinking. Even complex ideas like emotions and morality. Thinking is not a chore, not a burden, not a monster. It’s adventure. So what does it mean for a person like you or I to say “I’m confused.”? It means feeling unable to process thoughts in the straight line they generally follow. Something is blocking the steady stream, the usual order that we know life to go. Something is slowing us down. Something is obscuring our view. Something is pulling us in a different direction. Maybe it’s another stream of thoughts. Maybe it’s a person. Or maybe it’s that feeling that something doesn’t add up, doesn’t fit. Something is not okay. The world shames us for confusion, possibly because it means it means decisions and actions will be paused. And this is inconvenient and scary. That's probably why the statement is often met with a 'Buck up and do it' attitude. But if you are able to separate the shaming and pressure that comes from outside, you might find that confusion is actually a great alarm sign telling you to stop and consider. Honour that feeling. It might keep you from falling into a trap. You’re confused. Not gullible. PC: @lumographer07 at @alphabetsambar #theideasmithy #blog #confusion #emotions #thinking #thoughts #logic #relating #emotionintelligence #confused

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Alone Time Doesn’t Always Look Like This

It’s not that I haven’t been writing. I have, it’s just not here. I’ve been posting longer essays on Instagram. I’ll repost some of my favorites from there here too. Here’s the first. You can scroll down to see the full text in this post, if you don’t feel like reading it on Instagram.

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Alone time doesn't always look like this. More often than not, it's faded, crumpled, tattered even. And not in artful, Instagram-worthy ways. But it's important. We need tough love and the people who give it to us, especially if you, like me, find it hard to keep your head on straight in the throes of powerful emotion. People like us, we also need the gentle balm of those who tell us, it's okay to grieve, that it's fine to be sad even if it's not logical, to ache even if we were forewarned, even if we should have known better. And finally we need to meet ourselves, in our rawest forms. It doesn't have to happen immediately. Me, I have an inbuilt safety valve that lets me tuck away my messiest self deep down till I reach a time and place that I can take it out and face it, safely. And that must happen. A time when no other commitment or duty or person must intrude. Nothing else allowed to be more important than your own feelings which must be faced with no voices of the world interfering. And that is the time when you'll realise the ugliness is not you or in you. All you are, is a witness to the world and occasionally, a reflection of it. Reflections pass. You will, too. Watch it alone. PC & edit: @unstable_elemnt #beach #alonequotes #alonetime #solo #solitude #introspection #healing #selfcare #selfhealing #theideasmithy #mood #sunset #sunsetbeach #beachsunset #beachsunsets #alone #meditation #emotion #emotional

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Alone time doesn’t always look like this. More often than not, it’s faded, crumpled, tattered even. And not in artful, Instagram-worthy ways. But it’s important.

We need tough love and the people who give it to us, especially if you, like me, find it hard to keep your head on straight in the throes of powerful emotion. People like us, we also need the gentle balm of those who tell us, it’s okay to grieve, that it’s fine to be sad even if it’s not logical, to ache even if we were forewarned, even if we should have known better.

And finally we need to meet ourselves, in our rawest forms. It doesn’t have to happen immediately. Me, I have an inbuilt safety valve that lets me tuck away my messiest self deep down till I reach a time and place that I can take it out and face it, safely. And that must happen. A time when no other commitment or duty or person must intrude. Nothing else allowed to be more important than your own feelings which must be faced with no voices of the world interfering.

And that is the time when you’ll realise the ugliness is not you or in you. All you are, is a witness to the world and occasionally, a reflection of it. Reflections pass. You will, too. Watch it alone.

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Ageist

 

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JesterSpeak

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Every Traveller Is A Treasure-Seeker

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Prayer

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Evolution Isn’t A Race

Things I Learnt In 2007 (That Are Still True)

Things that are just never ‘right’

  • Office chairs
  • Filing systems
  • Tea made in most canteens, restaurants, dispensers
  • Bras

Things that shouldn’t but do enough work well enough

  • Men (the desi type not the ultra-smooth yurrrgh type) who sell women’s lingerie but don’t know how to pronounce the names
  • Hard mattresses or the bare ground when your back is killing you
  • An 80s hit disco number in the late afternoon and the ‘slow sappy’ playlist at 11:00 a.m.
  • Walking around for 4 minutes (no more, no less) in weather you’d normally consider unpleasant – hot & sweaty, drizzly-muggy or pouring rain.
  • Drinking hot water when you’ve bitten into a chilli and your tongue is on fire.

Things that are sure-fire bad ideas because…trust me, I’ve tried them!

  • Laughing too much before singing. It clogs your throat.
  • Listening to too much Jagjit Singh/ Micheal Bolton
  • Reading books by the same author back to back.
  • Too much time with a new boyfriend: Please note that this is defined as any of the following: Meeting/ phonetime for more than two hours, email/blog comments/SMS/chat messages that cumulatively take up more than an hour, thinking about/discussing with friends/blogging about more than once a day.
  • Publishing a post and then attempting to delete it (people who subscribe to your feed still see it!!!)
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