Daily Archives: September 2, 2019

A Tour Guide to You

Please don’t ask me to read you
I’ve spent far too long looking deep into other people
Slipping through the gaps in their expressions
Running down the spaces between their words
Looking for signposts in their sighs
And piecing together slices of them
What they say, how they say it
Who they love, who they hate
What they fear, what they crave

Bit by bit, I put together a picture of them
As I think they are under their pretences
Often, I’m right
Sometimes to my dismay
Reality isn’t always nice or agreeable
But it is meant to be experienced
I’m getting tired of experiencing other people’s realities
There is such a thing as knowing too much
And I’m losing sight of myself
From being so many people’s mirrors
All I’m left is feeling like cold glass
Broken and dry-eyed

Talk to me
tell me who you are and what you want me to see
And wait as I learn to close my ears and eyes so
I won’t be a tour guide into you anymore 

~O~O~O~O~O~O~

This is from a blog I wrote over a decade ago (called Behind Cobwebs and if you remember it, please drop a comment – I’d love to reconnect with people I used to talk with in those days).

If you find yourself falling sick or feeling emotionally drained without triggers, maybe you’re absorbing too much of what’s going on with other people. We are in an age of over-sharing and not enough taking responsibility for one’s words. Many people online dump what they can’t/won’t examine themselves. It’s easy to get swept along in the toxicity. Thus the behaviour moves offline too and poisons us all.

I’m working on protective boundaries and also doing my bit to keep the digital streams clean – by only putting up the most positive or only things I can take responsibility for. This means nothing that ‘is just a joke’ or ‘I didn’t know’ or ‘who cares, it’s only online’. Sharing is not the same thing as dumping. Lashing out is not conversation. I’m focussing on being a gardener, not a dumper. The world could use more flowers.

This gardener will prune too.

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A TOUR GUIDE INTO YOU Please don't ask me to read you I've spent far too long looking deep into other people Slipping through the gaps in their expressions Running down the spaces between their words Looking for signposts in their sighs And piecing together slices of them What they say, how they say it Who they love, who they hate What they fear, what they crave Bit by bit, I put together a picture of them As I think they are under their pretences Often, I'm right Sometimes to my dismay Reality isn't always nice or agreeable But it is meant to be experienced I'm getting tired of experiencing other people's realities There is such a thing as knowing too much And I'm losing sight of myself From being so many people's mirrors All I'm left is feeling like cold glass Broken and dry-eyed Talk to me tell me who you are and what you want me to see And wait as I learn to close my ears and eyes so I won't be a tour guide into you anymore ============================================== This is from a blog I wrote over a decade ago. If you find yourself falling sick or feeling emotionally drained without triggers, maybe you're absorbing too much of what's going on with other people. We are in an age of over-sharing and not enough taking responsibility for one's words. Many people online dump what they can't/won't examine themselves. It's easy to get swept along in the toxicity. Thus the behaviour moves offline too and poisons us all. I'm working on protective boundaries and also doing my bit to keep the digital streams clean – by only putting up positive messages or things I can take responsibility for. This means nothing that 'is just a joke' or 'I didn't know' or 'who cares, it's only online'. Sharing is not the same thing as dumping. Lashing out is not conversation. I'm focussing on being a gardener, not a dumper. The world could use more flowers. This gardener will prune too. #theideasmithy #perception #intuition #listen #listening #emotion #emotional #boundaries #protectyourenergy #protectyourpeace #protectyourself #protectyoursoul #empath #empathproblems #empaths #empathsbelike 📸 + 💇🏽‍♀️: @prerna2510 🎶: BRING ME TO LIFE – Evanescence

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