Haiku: Anti-Closure


How do you tell someone
that you don’t care for them anymore?

I guess you don’t.

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19 thoughts on “Haiku: Anti-Closure

  1. manuscrypts January 27, 2009 at 12:49 Reply

    ? but yes, i think i know what you mean…

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  2. manuscrypts January 27, 2009 at 12:51 Reply

    they took away the “” 😦

    manuscryptss last idea: The egoism that lurks…

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  3. Ms Taggart January 27, 2009 at 13:01 Reply

    Oh no.. I think you should tell them that! If the last meeting was bitter, it will satisfy your ego.. if it was amicable, it will be a great closure… 🙂

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  4. IdeaSmith January 27, 2009 at 13:44 Reply

    @ manuscrypts: Huh? What that to be?

    @ Ms Taggart: In theory, yes. But in real life?

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  5. Ms Taggart January 27, 2009 at 18:08 Reply

    Okay.. in real life also, I did that!
    One last meeting was disastrous, and I made sure that the guy doesn’t mean a thing to mean, and told him that. Not that it mattered to him too… 🙂
    In another case where the last meeting was very amicable, I could not say that. It took me 3 years to realize that I need to tell the guy that I don’t care for him the same way anymore, and I did that. It was received very well, and I was glad I did that, and also proud of him that he received it well, even after such a long time of us being together!

    I know this might be the case where this post was written, but I believe that once you clearly announce what’s on your head, the world becomes a better place for you to live! 🙂

    Ms Taggarts last idea: Amnesia!

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  6. Ms Taggart January 27, 2009 at 18:08 Reply

    Okay.. in real life also, I did that!
    One last meeting was disastrous, and I made sure that the guy doesn’t mean a thing to mean, and told him that. Not that it mattered to him too… 🙂
    In another case where the last meeting was very amicable, I could not say that. It took me 3 years to realize that I need to tell the guy that I don’t care for him the same way anymore, and I did that. It was received very well, and I was glad I did that, and also proud of him that he received it well, even after such a long time of us being together!

    I know this might not be the case where this post was written, but I believe that once you clearly announce what’s on your head, the world becomes a better place for you to live! 🙂

    Ms Taggarts last idea: Amnesia!

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  7. Emma January 27, 2009 at 23:12 Reply

    I probably would have a related question – how do you get away from someone as though you don’t care any more?

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  8. Dreamcatcher January 28, 2009 at 09:34 Reply

    Cruel and lethal, I guess. But that’s how life is.
    Loved this one 🙂

    Dreamcatchers last idea: Utterly butterly

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  9. IdeaSmith January 28, 2009 at 10:06 Reply

    @ Ms Taggart: So I’d have thought. But people differ.

    @ Emma: ‘as though you don’t care anymore’? If you do care for them, why would you want to get away from them?

    @ Dreamcatcher: Some things are better written about than experienced.

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  10. Tanuj Lakhina January 28, 2009 at 22:12 Reply

    Well it depends upon person to person.I mean on whose on the receiving end.In majority of the cases,don’t say it!

    Tanuj Lakhinas last idea: FA Cup on Indian TV

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  11. Biju Mathews January 28, 2009 at 23:29 Reply

    Don’t care for them or don’t love them any more or don’t want a relationship with them? You could care for a person and love them but sometimes their ideology makes it very difficult for you to live with them, right? But to amicably answer your question – I guess you don’t. Its something that nature teaches us; a dove as pet if takes every opportunity to peck at the cage door and flies off as soon as it gets the first whiff of freedom is better gone…

    It would be really great if you get the time to go through this post:

    http://venusmoonboy.blogspot.com/2008/12/who-doesnt-like-realistic-dream-of.html

    Biju Mathewss last idea: The "Traditional" Shiv Ram Sena Theory

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  12. Dreamcatcher January 29, 2009 at 11:41 Reply

    Madam, I be back in ze city. Pliss to call/chat any time.

    Dreamcatchers last idea: Blah blah

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  13. Rakhi January 29, 2009 at 13:03 Reply

    I have said that to some and heard that from some.
    And also had closure with some even though there was plenty of liking on both sides.
    What I find to be common to all situations is pain and disbelief on one side, and a misplaced sense of mercifulness on the other.
    I have done away with the mercy when I am dishing it out though.
    That keeps ’em away from dangerous me. But I somehow seem to need mercy when I have to stomach it myself. Why oh why don’t I grow up!!!!! 😦

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  14. Hope January 30, 2009 at 11:55 Reply

    True! If you dont care for them, why would you care enough to tell them that.. 🙂

    Hopes last idea: Killer Advice…

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  15. Sunil February 1, 2009 at 05:48 Reply

    Ha! I dont know if this is just a haiku or truth. Though I dont follow the indian blogosphere, the reader keeps on popping recommendations, Apparently u have around 150 subscriptions; anyway checked the first post and had to comment.

    we have an elaborate ritual lasting about half an hour – including returning things left behind ( of each other) etc. and if u have more time revisit snaps, places that u’d been together. I guess its important, say n do all that coz i dont believe you dont care for him/her anymore. I guess you dont feel like used to. so its healthy to say that and a final tc n fullstop. It’s hard but has to be done to move on.

    PS – Like ur rick snap. try the french fringe, guess it works better wit ur oval face.

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  16. IdeaSmith February 1, 2009 at 08:43 Reply

    @ Tanuj Lakhina: That’s honest. At least.

    @ Biju Matthews: Point taken. But don’t they at least deserve the courtesy of being told that honestly?

    @ Dreamcatcher: On it.

    @ Rakhi: Mercy is not an idea that sits well on me, dishing it out or – even worse – receiving it. It sounds disrespectful somehow.

    @ Hope: Absolutely!

    @ Sunil: Well, this is a blog so it’s an interactive forum. It belongs to a chronic thinker so in a lot of cases I don’t have an answer to the questions I raise. Other people are welcome to read for their entertainment, because they identify with it and/or share their thoughts. Thanks for the compliment on the header – it is an old photograph used only for symbolic purposes.

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  17. Ashish February 1, 2009 at 12:13 Reply

    In total agreement with ‘Hope’…

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  18. Rakhi February 3, 2009 at 06:15 Reply

    i totally get your point of view. i guess i chose the wrong word. But whatever it is, goodbyes are lousy. and hence i am thinking of forgoing hellos from now on.

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  19. IdeaSmith February 6, 2009 at 05:15 Reply

    @ Ashish: And I.

    @ Rakhi: Hmm. That reminds me of a conversation from ‘Hitch’. “So I guess it’s best to not ever fall in love?” “Or skate.”

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