Anesthetized


I was at the hospital last week. I didn’t schedule it well ahead on my calendar and keep looking at the date with gnawing hunger. I just picked up my bag at lunchtime and walked out after a brief word with my manager. I took a cab there, walked in, waiting for the appointment and took a cab back when I was done. When my colleagues asked me where I was, I uncharacteristically didn’t say a word, just a “Some stuff to get done.”

I stopped to have a dosa in the hospital canteen before the appointment, which is when I actually thought about it. When did I get so numb over the experience?

My earliest memory of a hospital visit was for my grandfather’s cataract operation during the school summer holidays. We were told to keep as quiet as possible and ‘see’ thatha but not disturb him. I was on my best behaviour and since my cousin-nemesis-fellow mischief maker was too, things went off smoothly. We came back with thatha who had to wear an eye shield for awhile after that. I was glad that experience was over.

The next time was a few months later for the other grandfather. And this time round, I came back to school to an essay about a visit to the hospital. My descriptive 7-pager got the proverbial star as well as a discreet comment from the teacher on how to spell opthalmology.

There was the time mum was in the hospital for a fortnight, when I was in college. I froze into an ice-block, carrying out all the required tasks, robotically moving between home, college, hospital and the empty darkness inside my mind. It never occurred to me till much later when I was reading a book about body language that for six months following that period, I slept curled up foetus-like.

I do remember sitting outside the gates in the rain, alone, waiting for it to be visiting hour. And I remember walking down to the paediatrics department to listen to the breathing of newborns. And a baby in the incubator there. Her mother would cry every evening watching the 6-month-preemie gasp for breath and I remember telling her that the baby had finished all its suffering before she was fully born so she was going to have a good life from there on. She died 2 days before we left the hospital.

There were the months in and out of hospitals and clinics and labs in Delhi and Mumbai. There was blood transfusions, a rainfall of test reports, chemotherapy, consultation fees, second opinions, third opinions, so very many opinions. There was cancer. Twice over. And above all the overriding antiseptic smell.

And then there were none.

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12 thoughts on “Anesthetized

  1. Shreyasi February 20, 2007 at 16:04 Reply

    You are the brave one (I never find you numb) by circumstances and then maybe by habit and choice…Yo girl!

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  2. ratz February 21, 2007 at 06:21 Reply

    I hate hospitals!

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  3. Pseudonymous Lady February 21, 2007 at 06:28 Reply

    That’s funny, I went in to the hospital yesterday and was thinking about how much I hate the experience. I was a fairly cooperative kid who didn’t mind hospitals all that much, didn’t fuss with her shots and braces and such. But as an “adult,” I seem “freaked out” (no other apt expression πŸ˜€ ) by these places of illness. I feel like there are bugs of varieties of diseases just hanging in the air and waiting for a host to sadistically spring into. I feel claustrophobic because from the minute I think about my hospital visit till the moment it’s over, I have a lump of nausea in my throat, and my stomach’s working out on the dojo. Mostly, I hate the smell. It’s like sickness, death and everything that’s evil and icky just enter you by smell and pervade your senses and corrupt your brain and … and … um, I think I’ll just let that stop there. πŸ˜€

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  4. ideasmith February 21, 2007 at 12:52 Reply

    @ Shreyasi: Thank you. Brave by circumstances? Umm…that was an unexpected reaction to the situation and I surprised myself. But I’m not brave intrinsically.

    @ Ratz: I’m numb to them.

    @ Pseudonymous Lady: πŸ˜€ I got the point, anyway!

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  5. shub February 21, 2007 at 16:20 Reply

    wow! I dunno what to say, you’ve been through hell and back!

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  6. Melody February 21, 2007 at 18:37 Reply

    Hugs baby, hope you’re alright. Will call you.

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  7. Peeyush February 22, 2007 at 11:45 Reply

    @Idea,

    Nice.

    @Mel,

    Nice.

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  9. Sense March 2, 2007 at 12:41 Reply

    you visited the Hospital? why? all OK?

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  10. ideasmith March 2, 2007 at 16:33 Reply

    @ Sense: Yup. Call me when you get back. I cancelled my flight.

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