I am amazed by the number of people who don’t understand this word at all. Sometimes I am horrified by how many terrible people there are in the world. And then I realise that the most awful things ever said or done are so because of lack of respect. Some people don’t understand respect; they only understand fear. It is the way they’ve been taught to live, to be, to treat, to gain and give power. Here’s my attempt to define it again…. 

Kindness without respect is pity.

Generosity without respect is charity. 

Teaching without respect is showing off.

Protecting without respect is an ego trip.

Chivalry without respect is just a stereotype. 

Appreciating beauty without respect is just plain leching. 

Compliments minus respect are flattery. 

Responsibility without respect is a burden.  

Love without respect is neediness. 

‘Space’ without respect is indifference.

Caring without respect is not caring at all.

I want nothing that’s given without respect. And if I ever give you something without respect, please throw it right back on my face. Respect is a two-way street after all. And a way of life.

It permeates every aspect of life, every human interaction, every feeling, every conversation, every relationship. I see it as recognition. Of another life form. I see it as empathy and understanding and acceptance and appreciation. I see the power that can be snatched and lost. Then I see power that radiates from within and its source is always…RESPECT.

This is something I’ve wanted to say for a long, long time. And I haven’t. Because I didn’t respect myself enough to voice such a basic thought. And I didn’t respect you enough to have the patience or intelligence to listen.

Thank you.

21 thoughts on “Respect

  1. medha September 4, 2006 at 17:02 Reply

    Loved this post!

    “Love without respect is neediness”.
    It indeed is! 🙂


  2. ideasmith September 4, 2006 at 17:49 Reply


    By the way, is this Medha Sengupta? And if so, are you unable to sign the comment with your blogger URL? I’ll need to check my template then.


  3. ideasmith September 4, 2006 at 17:50 Reply


    By the way, is this Medha Sengupta? I ask because you haven’t left your URL behind and I’d like to know if there’s a bug in my template that doesn’t allow non-Wordpress users to sign in.


  4. sundar September 4, 2006 at 23:58 Reply underlying thread essential for connectedness in interfaces…nice post…


  5. Ideasmith September 5, 2006 at 04:05 Reply

    Medha, Sundar:) Glad you liked it!

    Is this Medha Sengupta? I ask because you haven’t left a URL and I wonder if its because WordPress isn’t allowing you to sign in with a Blogger id.


  6. medha September 5, 2006 at 05:19 Reply

    haha..yes babes, its Medha Sengupta.



  7. medha September 5, 2006 at 05:21 Reply

    And i just dint fill in the website option. 🙂


  8. SwB September 5, 2006 at 05:32 Reply

    so true … beautifully said IS!


  9. Ideasmith September 5, 2006 at 05:56 Reply

    Medha: Ah, cool….was just wondering…am still trying out iron out the kinks in the new blog.

    SwB: Thengyu saar!


  10. Khush September 5, 2006 at 07:39 Reply

    simply awesome and a prolific take on RESPECT.


  11. Me September 5, 2006 at 08:05 Reply

    Sex without respect is a fuck


  12. Ideasmith September 5, 2006 at 08:19 Reply

    I wonder who the ‘me’ is who had such a worthy thought but didn’t feel like leaving behind a name or a link. I wish he/she had.


  13. Me September 5, 2006 at 09:19 Reply

    Sometimes there’s a thrill in anonymity. 🙂


  14. Ideasmith September 5, 2006 at 09:23 Reply

    Arrrrggghhh…..too much of that going around these days, ‘Me’!!


  15. tbk September 5, 2006 at 18:12 Reply

    so do you think need + respect = love??
    power without respect is abuse


  16. Maya September 6, 2006 at 10:31 Reply

    Btw, Me = Maya


  17. ideasmith September 7, 2006 at 04:16 Reply

    tbk: I like the power equation but I don’t think the love equation is that simple. This isn’t arithmetic after all.

    Maya: I loved the thought. I wish I’d thought of it first and included it in the post. Thank you for dropping by!


  18. Seema September 20, 2006 at 13:13 Reply


    Liked your new workshop.
    And I ound this as the best post here.


  19. IdeaSmith September 20, 2006 at 13:46 Reply

    @Seema: Thank you, ma’am 🙂


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    […] And most of all, we genuinely, really will RESPECT you. (That does not appear to be a top priority with the men we has encountered but we gets a feeling it might matter as much to you as it does to us.) […]


  21. Adigbo richard December 4, 2009 at 19:32 Reply

    Too real & true!


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